The Princess and the Penis
So I see this image on a very well known business networking Instagram page and I have to double take. I am having this internal dialogue of, WTF, what is with this, how is this positive….
Initially I was taken aback because 2349 liked the pic, gave it the double tap heart, and as I scrolled over the comments of 100 or so, only one other person had remarked about the ‘Becoming A Bitch’ title. So, did everyone like it because of the page it was on, and not really give any consideration what so ever to the image and message? Or, are 2249 people OK with this? With becoming a princess bitch who has all her own money and needs no one?
I wonder, are they happy or are they liking for the sake of liking. Or maybe they absolutely think this is a normal way of being. Now, I don’t know their marital status and if you have just come out of some shit storm of a divorce and been totally screwed over by some over charging lawyer, then managed to rebuild, well perhaps I can see the point.
I lost a shit tonne of money in my settlement, like $100,000 thanks to bad judgement and not listening to my lawyer or my intuition. But I take that on board. I still don’t want to feel this way as the meme (if that’s what I call this) suggests.
But who am I to judge and have an opinion right?
The idea of HER OWN and HER OWN and HER MONEY .., someone is surely angry and pissed off right?
I get it though, I would never ever combine all my bank accounts with anyone ever again. Never. The thing is, no one should anyway. That’s another topic of ace convo. It goes along with identity, control and doing what ever the fuck I want with my money and not having to justify it to anyone, and vice versa.
Can you imagine some kinda semi brattish chick going ‘my money’ ‘my castle’ ‘my this, my that’??
How’s that working out for you?
So I get more curious and I think about this a bit more…cause I do that.
I feel like I could wear a sign on my forehead that says ‘f*ck off, I don’t need anyone’. And then build a big moat, coat my body in armour and not let anyone in because I have MY OWN castle and I take care of ME.
I wonder, who else get’s this image like I do or who loves it, either way is good. I have to get male input, cant only be me and my female friends.
One of my 1600+ Facey friends says ‘too many emasculation swords there. However if there was a Queen there that was open, honest & feminine whilst home & admitted whist I don’t “Need” a man I freaking “WANT” one then let’s look at the possibility’.
Another friend, whom I met on Tinder, was worried about the apron, but then said ‘No problem here except I would comment that independence and femininity can happily coexist …… there’s no mention that there is no man in that picture …. (but only a feminine one would be ok with this – oh that’s my addition to his comment BTW) but it begs the question for most women which is to not lose yourself in the fight for yourself…. but that’s only a question that remains to be answered in this meme …. I think people’s reactions here are about applying past experiences of observing women burst out of the gates of chauvinism so hard that they become something that makes them something they’re not …. a product of mistreatment rather than an expression of true self.’
Then one of my other lovely friends says ‘Bitch means that I am strong, beautiful and not every man can have me’. She is right, not every man can have us and could we can choose another more empowering word to use?
In a nutshell and further to my take on it, (and my bestie Nadine)and the big fuck off on the forehead. If you don’t need a man for anything, then why would he want you? Where is there room for this amazing man in your life?
We all need to feel a sense of being needed. And there is a big difference between NEEDY and WANTING someone. Better yet, a DESIRE to be with someone and want them in your life.
There’s nothing wrong with being able to provide for yourself, it’s important, a man is not a financial plan. There needs to be some harmony. A man generally “wants” to be able to take care and provide for his woman. TV says so, I just watch an episode of Mistresses (ha ha I hear you, but this guy, hot plastic surgeon, gifts his fiancé a brand new Teslar) and even he says ‘he wants to take care of his fiance’ while discussing a pre-nup that he doesn’t want. Which can be done in lots of ways. As too, a woman generally ” wants ” to be able to take care of her man and feel needed, when she truly embraces her femininity.
It’s human nature. The brilliance of be-ing human. We are all different and then somewhere, down there, we are all wanting the same. Love and connection at it’s finest.
Ladies, if we do not have the ability or we are not open to ‘receive’ (and want to get around in aprons), no doubt, we will end up very fricken alone AND lonely. So this Princess is not likely to get any penis.
With love and sassiness
OR what if we thought more like this……
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